I’ve been single for about two years. Its by choice really. So far I haven’t met someone who is willing to put up with me and every time I run into someone who I think is a potential boyfriend they always let me down in some way. For everyone else though, it seems they all are striking gold, or just settling down with someone that they have been dating for six months just because they can. Either way, I’m in the single group. With every single dating experience I learn more and more about how I can’t tolerate people who just want to have a quick bang and go or think that they are so high up there in life that they don’t need to do anything with themselves. I’ve met people who think I’m attractive and show interest for a couple weeks and then are gone, I’ve also met people who just don’t see it working out with us dating so I get friend zoned. Either way it works out quite nicely for me because hey, I rather be alone then with a jerk. 

Then there are the guys who think that me traveling is so risky and try to talk me down. I’ve met a few of them and every time I tell myself that I just have to move onward and forward because I am tired of hearing some guy going "but aren’t you afraid you’ll get like....raped or something when you go out there in the world by yourself". First, yea of course I’m afraid of that, that’s why I bring pepper spray, a cell phone to call 911 and of course a knife that is legal to carry depending on the length of the knife and what the state law is. Im not an idiot and it seems that most men think that I am just because I don’t take a guy with me on my trips. If anything I find it be to calming and rewarding to go by myself. I don’t have to listen to complaints, I don’t have to worry about what they think, I don’t have to listen to the guy talking me out of things I want to do. It’s all me and what I want and that’s the best thing in the world. 

Being single also taught me to be independent and to put myself first. It taught me that what I want and how I treat my body is more important than letting a man dictate what I do with my body or how I treat myself. I can make decisions based on what I think is good for me and that’s so important. In the past I have let guys put me down and I always felt like trash because I never met there standards of what I should look like or act like. It always made me feel worthless and never good enough. I constantly would get badgered on how I talked or the way I dressed and I hated it. I get embarrassed easily and they would get mad if I said no to anything at all because it was out of my comfort zone and I thought I’d be too embarrassing to do. In the end I just gave up and became single. It’s tiring to run in circles and it’s a lot of work for me to commit to somebody just because of a nice little lust between me and the other person. Really it’s all about me and what I want and yea that sounds conceited but, honestly it’s the truth. I want someone who makes me happy and supports me with what I decide not someone who is going to throw me away after we have sex or someone who thinks I shouldn’t follow my dreams. 

Were all human and I think being independent and learning who you are before committing to someone is a big step in understanding yourself. Not everyone goes through it and some people get lucky and meet their soulmate early on in life but for me It just hasn’t happened yet. I’m happy being single and I’m happy with who I am. If you’re single don’t let it get you down, you’ll meet someone soon, you just gotta wait and be patient. We all have our moments and when your single, it’s a good time to learn who you truly are so take your time and enjoy it while you have it because your soulmate might be around the corner somewhere waiting for your appearance. After all, the world is full of surprises.